Nice Guy Syndrome

Okay so it's been awhile. But that's okay, because the 5 people that read this probably know what's been up with me anyway.

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I'm glad to see there's at least one person out there who recognizes the plight of us nice guys (click the title.) I especially like the following part (ignore the focus on "getting laid" here; it's valid for relationships as well):

And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks.

Pet Peeve

I apologize to anyone who may happen upon this, but I feel a need to rant a bit. I talked to two of my friends today, both girls. One mentioned that she weighed enough to give blood, and the other mentioned she couldn't because she didn't weigh enough. The first girl said she was barely over the limit. This led me to mention that I was surprised that the first girl weighed more than the second. Of course, you see my blunder, and you can guess how the second girl reacted. But why the hell does it have to be such a big deal when there's really no insult at all? The first girl in question is approaching stick-thin, and the other isn't quite as thin, but no where near big; it's a visible difference, but we're talking an actual weight difference of maybe at most five pounds around the 110 range. That isn't bad at all. I mean, I'm sure the second girl would admit that the first is thinner than her. All I did was state a fact, which no one should have any disagreement or offense to. Thus, it's only because I stated it, and not her, that she took offense. Now, I could see reason for offense if the first girl was already on the heavier side, because that would mean the second girl looked much heavier than that. But that's not the case. Therefore why should this be so taboo? I mean, I weigh (*gasp*) around 190 pounds, and I know who's thinner than me, and I can accept that someone is obviously thinner than me. So why can't some people not take things so badly? It's because of this stubbornness that guys can 'dig themselves in deeper'... It's only because some girls over-react to some small things and then make it impossible for the guy to explain himself, because any attempt at explanation inevitably invokes the original thing said, and the girl gets more offended.

That's all I got in me. Good night, and hopefully I'll have more over the weekend.

Don't Hate Me Because I'm Beautiful

Now, a lot of the time I think I'm wiser than many of my elders, particularly my grandma and Republicans. However, I have noticed that older women tend to complement my looks a lot... "You look so sharp!" "You're becoming a very good-looking man." etc. and so forth. Why, just today as I was waiting for the hair dresser to finish giving this old lady and her daughter their change, as I was checking the prices the old lady looked at me and said, "You're a very handsome young man," and then to her daughter commented, "Isn't he a very handsome young man?" I smiled modestly and said thank you. Now what I can't figure out is why I keep being told how handsome I am by older women who are merely being nice, while I never hear from young women. If any of you young women are reading this, don't be afraid... I promise I don't bite.